Monday, January 23, 2012
Elizabeth Bennet Recipe
My question is: How did Jane and Elizabeth turn out so well, while the other three turned out so silly? Elizabeth mentioned (when questioned by Lady Catherine about her education) that they did not have a governess and they were expected in a large part to teach themselves and they were given all they needed to do so. Those that applied themselves (Jane and Elizabeth) flourished. I think by disposition, Jane and Elizabeth were able to succeed in that environment while the others needed more guidance. This got me thinking about children and how different they all are. I am so curious what my other kids will be like. I don't want any Lydia's or Kitty's. I feel like Lydia could have been quite successful if she had been reined in and given less freedom. She obviously was a leader and very likable, but gave in to her desire to be loved and her reckless side.
So how can you make your daughter into an Elizabeth vs. a Lydia? I am no expert as Elanor is only one, but I think my mom did a good job with my sister and I. She encouraged us to do things we were good at, but also challenged us to try new things as well. My mom was not prepared for a girl who loved ballet, but she enrolled me and helped me to become a better dancer. She also wanted me to play sports as well and curbed my somewhat too girly side and made me into (I think) a fairly well-rounder girl. The same with my sister, but the other way around. She was more of a tom-boy and helped Jessica to be a bit more girly. I find that the best sort of girls are those that are a perfect balance between being feminine and strong (strong as in: intelligent, athletic). So please, lets stop raising silly girls. Princesses are fine and I admit I like those sorts of stories, but really if your little girl only cares about princesses and the color pink, then she is heading into the world of flirting, texting, and make-up. There is nothing wrong with texting (if not obsessive) and make-up (if fact I think girls should wear make-up, but not until high school) but if that is her whole world then yes, there is something seriously wrong.
So please, lets raise Elizabeth Bennet's.